Sexual Assault Targeting Youth & Teens - Are Adults & Technology The Real Threat?
- The White Hatter
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Caveat: This article serves as a follow-up to our recent article, “Trust, Betrayal, and Child Exploitation: A True Story of a Hidden Predator Within the Family Circle (1).” In that article, we explored an important reality supported by decades of research, that being when it comes to child sexual abuse, exploitation, and predation, the offender is often not a stranger. More commonly, it is someone the survivor knows, trusts, and may even love. In the case we shared, the offender was the survivor’s step-father.
However, another important statistic often receives far less attention. Research suggests that a significant proportion of sexual offences involving youth are committed not by adults, but by peers who are close in age to the victim. Some studies estimate that youth-to-youth sexual harm accounts for approximately 60 percent of sexual offences against young people.
This article takes a closer look at that often overlooked reality. Drawing on newly released research, we examine what the data tells us about peer-perpetrated sexual behaviour, why it occurs, and what parents, caregivers, educators, and communities can do to better understand and address this complex issue.
When concerns about youth behaviour make headlines, it is common to hear the internet, social media, smartphones, and online platforms blamed as the primary cause of a wide range of adolescent challenges. While technology can certainly influence how young people communicate, interact, and sometimes harm one another, recent research continues to highlight an important reality that parents, caregivers, and educators should understand. Technology is often the vehicle through which a behaviour occurs, but it is not always the reason the behaviour occurs, and that distinction matters.
At The White Hatter, we have long encouraged families to look beyond simple explanations and examine the bigger picture. The temptation to blame technology for every youth related concern may feel satisfying because it provides a clear target. However, when we focus exclusively on the device, app, or platform, we may overlook the underlying developmental, social, and educational factors that are actually driving the behaviour.
A 2026 research paper titled, “Nonconsensual sexual behaviour among youth: Age dynamics and implications for prevention” examined youth involved sexual offending and found that many incidents did not fit the stereotypical image that often dominates public discussion (2). In this research, “nonconsensual sexual behaviour” referred to a range of youth reported sexual victimization experiences, including unwanted sexual touching, being made to touch another person sexually, attempted or completed forced intercourse, peer-initiated sexual coercion, forced or surprise sexual exposure, verbal or written sexual harassment, and age inappropriate sexual activity involving an adult.
“In 60% of all cases, the individual who initiated the nonconsensual sexual behaviour was younger than 18 years old. Of these instances, most (67%) occurred between two adolescents (12–17 years) and least (15%) between an adolescent and a child. In 69% of instances, the youth who initiated nonconsensual sexual behaviour was two or fewer years older than the youth who experienced the behaviour.”
Rather than involving significantly older youth targeting much younger children, many cases involved adolescents who were relatively close in age. This is also something that has been reflected in past Canadian research as well (3)(4)(5). The findings of this new 2026 research suggest that peer dynamics, developmental immaturity, poor understanding of consent, relationship pressures, and adolescent decision-making may play a significant role in many of these incidents.
This does not excuse harmful behaviour, rather, it helps us better understand where prevention efforts should be directed. The research suggests that many harmful behaviours among youth and teens may emerge from factors such as:
Difficulty understanding consent and boundaries
Peer pressure and social influence
Emotional immaturity
Impulsivity
Sexual curiosity and experimentation
Poor relationship skills
Limited understanding of the consequences of their actions
What is important to note is that these are issues that existed long before smartphones, social media, or the internet.
One of the most important takeaways for parents and caregivers, while the study found that approximately 60% of reported nonconsensual sexual behaviour incidents involved another youth rather than an adult, it did not examine whether internet use, social media, pornography exposure, smartphones, or other forms of technology contributed to these behaviours. As a result, the findings cannot be used to conclude that technology was a causal factor. The study helps us understand who was engaging in the behaviour, but it does not tell us why the behaviour occurred.
This distinction matters. When discussions about youth sexual behaviour arise, there can be a tendency to assume that technology is the primary cause. However, this new research does not support that conclusion. However, in our experience, technology may simply be the environment where a behaviour is expressed, rather than the reason it occurred in the first place.
Think about it this way. If one teenager pressures another into sending an intimate image, the smartphone may be the tool being used, but the underlying issue may be peer pressure, poor consent education, a desire for social status, immaturity, unhealthy relationship dynamics, or a lack of empathy. Similarly, if a youth distributes an intimate image without consent, social media may facilitate the distribution, but the behaviour itself is often rooted in a lack of understanding about respect, boundaries, privacy, accountability, and the impact such actions can have on another person.
Technology did not create these underlying motivations. What technology often does is increase the speed, reach, permanence, and visibility of behaviours that might previously have occurred in more limited ways. This is why focusing exclusively on removing technology may not address the root causes of the problem. If we want to reduce nonconsensual sexual behaviour among youth, we must also focus on teaching consent, empathy, healthy relationships, personal responsibility, communication skills, and respect for boundaries, both online and offline.
Over the years, one pattern we have consistently observed is the tendency to attribute complex youth related challenges to a single source, that being technology and smartphones. While this type of explanation is often appealing because it is simple, easy to communicate, and generates attention grabbing headlines, it can sometimes steer parents, caregivers, educators, and policymakers toward solutions that address the symptom rather than the underlying cause.
When technology is framed as the primary problem, the proposed solutions often become equally straightforward. If the internet is viewed as the cause, the answer becomes limiting internet access. If smartphones are seen as the cause, the solution becomes banning smartphones. If social media is identified as the culprit, the response becomes eliminating social media use.
However, many of the issues we worry about, such as peer pressure, poor decision making, unhealthy relationship dynamics, consent violations, social aggression, risk-taking, and emotional immaturity, existed long before the first smartphone, social media platform, or internet connection. Technology may influence how these behaviours are expressed, amplified, or shared, but it is not always the root cause. When we focus exclusively on the tool, we risk overlooking the social, developmental, educational, and relational factors that often drive the behaviour in the first place.
However, if the underlying issues involve consent, empathy, emotional regulation, healthy relationships, communication skills, and personal boundaries, then removing technology alone may not adequately prepare young people for the world they will eventually enter. Technology restrictions may have a role to play in some families and circumstances. However, restrictions should never replace education.
One of the clearest themes emerging from this research is the critical importance of helping young people develop a meaningful understanding of consent. Too often, consent is reduced to a simple question of whether someone said “yes” or “no.” In reality, consent is far more nuanced and encompasses a wide range of social, emotional, and interpersonal skills that young people need to learn and practice as they mature (6)(7)(8).
At its core, consent is about respect. It involves recognizing that every person has the right to control what happens to their own body, personal information, images, and emotional well being. It requires an understanding of personal boundaries, healthy communication, empathy, mutual respect, and the ability to recognize and respond appropriately to the feelings and wishes of others. Consent also involves understanding power dynamics and recognizing that pressure, manipulation, coercion, fear, intoxication, or unequal relationships can undermine a person’s ability to freely agree to something.
Unfortunately, many young people receive limited education about these concepts. While schools may provide some instruction, the depth and consistency of that education can vary significantly. As a result, many youth are left to piece together their understanding of relationships, sexuality, and consent from a variety of sources, some reliable and some not. They may learn from friends who are equally inexperienced, from social media influencers who prioritize engagement over accuracy, from entertainment media that often portrays unrealistic relationship dynamics, or from online pornography, which is designed to entertain adults rather than educate young people about healthy relationships and respectful behaviour.
The challenge is that these sources often provide conflicting messages. A teenager may hear one thing from a teacher, another from their peers, something entirely different on TikTok, and yet another message from the content they consume from other places online. Without guidance from trusted adults, it can be difficult for young people to sort through these competing narratives and determine what is healthy, respectful, and appropriate.
This is one reason why silence can create its own risks. When parents, caregivers, and educators avoid conversations about relationships, sexuality, boundaries, and consent because they feel uncomfortable or assume someone else will address them, young people rarely stop looking for answers. Instead, they often seek information elsewhere. The problem is not that youth are curious, curiosity is a normal part of development. The challenge is that the information they find may be incomplete, misleading, or entirely inaccurate. This is especially true when it comes to peer recruitment into the sex industry (9)(10).
For this reason, parents, caregivers, and educators play an essential role in helping young people build a healthy foundation of knowledge and skills. Conversations about consent should not be limited to discussions about sexual activity. They should begin much earlier and include broader lessons about respecting personal space, listening when someone expresses discomfort, understanding boundaries, accepting rejection respectfully, and recognizing that every individual has the right to make decisions about their own body and personal information.
When young people are given accurate, age appropriate guidance about relationships, communication, empathy, boundaries, and consent, they are better equipped to navigate both their offline and online lives. These skills not only help reduce the risk of harmful behaviour, but also contribute to healthier friendships, stronger relationships, greater emotional intelligence, and a deeper respect for themselves and others. In a world where young people are constantly exposed to competing messages about relationships and sexuality, informed guidance from trusted adults remains one of the most important protective factors we can provide.
For many years, child safety education was built largely around the concept of “stranger danger.” Parents, caregivers, and schools taught children to be cautious of unknown adults, avoid suspicious individuals, and report interactions that made them feel uncomfortable. While these lessons still have value and stranger-based risks certainly exist, our understanding of victimization has evolved significantly over the past several decades and why we believe stranger danger in no longer valid in today’s onlife world (11)(12).
Research consistently shows that many forms of harm experienced by children and adolescents do not originate from complete strangers. Instead, they often occur between individuals who already know one another. These may be friends, classmates, teammates, dating partners, acquaintances, family members, or other trusted individuals within a young person’s social circle. Familiarity, trust, and existing relationships frequently create opportunities for both positive interactions and, unfortunately, harmful ones as well.
The same reality exists in digital spaces. Much of the public conversation about online safety continues to focus on the unknown predator hiding behind a fake profile. While these cases do occur and deserve attention, many of the online harms experienced by youth involve people they already know offline. Digital peer aggression often occurs between classmates. Non-consensual sharing of intimate images frequently involves current or former dating partners. Online harassment commonly originates from peers within existing friend groups. Even many cases involving pressure, manipulation, or coercive behaviour occur within relationships that were already established before the interaction moved online.
This distinction is important because it challenges a common assumption that safety is primarily about identifying dangerous people. In reality, safety is also about understanding how to navigate the relationships young people already have. Teaching youth to avoid unknown risks is only one part of prevention. We must also help them recognize unhealthy behaviours within familiar relationships, understand personal boundaries, communicate effectively, and respond appropriately when someone they know crosses a line.
As a result, prevention efforts should focus not only on who young people communicate with, but also on how they communicate and interact with others. A teenager may never speak to a stranger online and still experience digital peer aggression, peer pressure, image-based abuse, coercion, or emotional manipulation from someone they know at school, on a sports team, or within their social circle. Simply teaching youth and teens to be cautious of strangers does little to prepare them for these realities.
This is why relationship education has become such an important component of modern child safety efforts. Young people need opportunities to learn what healthy friendships, healthy dating relationships, and healthy online interactions look like. They need to understand concepts such as consent, empathy, accountability, respect, conflict resolution, and digital citizenship. They need to learn that trust does not give someone permission to violate boundaries, and that respect should exist both online and offline.
In many ways, teaching youth and teens how to build and maintain healthy relationships may be just as important as teaching them how to identify potential dangers. The goal is not to create fear or suspicion of others. Rather, it is to equip young people with the knowledge, skills, and confidence needed to recognize both healthy and unhealthy behaviours, regardless of whether those behaviours come from a stranger or someone they know well.
As parents, caregivers, and educators, this broader understanding of safety allows us to move beyond outdated models that focus exclusively on external threats. Instead, it encourages conversations that prepare young people for the realities of the world they actually live in, a world where the most meaningful interactions, both positive and negative, often occur within existing relationships. When we teach youth how to navigate those relationships with respect, empathy, boundaries, and accountability, we are providing them with skills that protect them not only online, but throughout their lives.
Rather than focusing exclusively on screen time, apps, or devices, consider also focusing on the skills that help young people navigate both online and offline relationships safely. These include:
Empathy and perspective-taking
Respect for personal boundaries
Understanding consent
Healthy communication
Emotional regulation
Critical thinking
Responsible decision-making
Digital literacy
Accountability for actions
One of the reasons these skills are so important is that they are not tied to any particular technology, device, platform, or trend. Unlike apps, websites, games, and social media platforms, which constantly evolve, disappear, or are replaced by something new, skills such as empathy, critical thinking, communication, self-regulation, respect for boundaries, consent, and responsible decision making remain relevant throughout a young person’s life.
These are what researchers often refer to as protective factors, qualities and competencies that help reduce risk while increasing a young person’s ability to navigate challenges safely and successfully. Whether a youth is interacting face-to-face with friends, participating in a group chat, navigating a dating relationship, responding to peer pressure, or engaging with emerging technologies that have not even been invented yet, these foundational skills continue to serve as a guide for healthy decision-making.
This is why we often encourage parents, caregivers, and educators to focus not only on managing technology, but also on developing the person using the technology. A teenager who understands empathy is more likely to think about the impact their words may have on others before posting a comment online. A young person who understands consent is more likely to respect boundaries, both in person and in digital spaces. Someone who has developed strong critical thinking skills is better equipped to evaluate misinformation, recognize manipulation, and make informed choices regardless of the platform they are using.
Technology will continue to change. The apps that dominate today may be forgotten within a few years. New forms of communication, artificial intelligence tools, virtual environments, and social platforms will emerge that we cannot fully predict. Attempting to prepare young people for every new platform is almost impossible. Preparing them with the skills to navigate whatever comes next is far more achievable and ultimately far more effective. As we like to say here at the White Hatter, “Principles stay the same, diverse in their application.”
This is one reason why a skills based approach to digital literacy and online safety is so valuable. Rather than focusing exclusively on specific technologies, it focuses on helping young people develop competencies that travel with them wherever they go. These skills do not stop working when a phone is turned off, when a social media account is deleted, or when a new technology enters the marketplace. They apply at school, at home, on the sports field, in the workplace, within friendships, and eventually in adult relationships.
Ultimately, our goal should not simply be to help young people survive the current digital landscape. Our goal should be to help them develop the judgment, character, resilience, and relationship skills that will allow them to thrive in whatever environment they encounter, online, offline, and everywhere in between. Those are the lessons that endure long after today’s technology has become tomorrow’s history.
As parents, caregivers, and educators, it is natural to look for simple explanations when confronted with difficult issues involving youth, however, the reality is often more complicated. Yes, research has found that exposure to technology can be linked to attitudes and behaviours that may affect healthy sexual development, especially when young people are using pornography as a substitute for real sex education (13). Technology can certainly magnify problems, accelerate them, scale them, and sometimes make them more visible. However, many of the behaviours that concern us are rooted in human development, relationships, social dynamics, and education. If we focus only on the screen, we may miss what is happening behind it.
At The White Hatter, we continue to encourage a balanced approach rooted in evidence rather than fear. Protecting young people requires more than restricting access to technology. It requires helping them develop the knowledge, skills, values, and resilience needed to navigate an increasingly connected world.
The goal is not simply to raise children who can avoid danger online, it’s to raise young people who understand respect, boundaries, consent, empathy, and responsibility wherever they happen to be in today’s onlife world.
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References:
12/ https://www.thewhitehatter.ca/post/why-stranger-danger-doesnt-work-especially-in-todays-onlife-world
