From Public Feeds to Trusted Communities: How Youth and Teens Are Changing the Way They Connect Online
- The White Hatter
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There is an interesting shift we are witnessing taking place in how some youth and teens are choosing to connect online, one that we believe parents, caregivers, and educators should be paying attention to. For years, much of the conversation surrounding young people and technology has focused on what platforms they are using. Are they on Instagram, TikTok, Snapchat, YouTube, Discord, or whatever new platform is gaining popularity? Although knowing where young people spend their time can be helpful, we believe this platform focused approach can cause us to miss something more important that is beginning to happen. It is not simply that youth and teens are migrating from one app to another. Some are changing how, where, and with whom they want to connect with online.
We are increasingly seeing young people use large public and algorithmically driven platforms differently, while moving more of their meaningful communication into smaller, private, and relationship based digital spaces. This does not mean that public social media is disappearing or that youth are suddenly abandoning TikTok, Instagram, YouTube, Snapchat, or other popular platforms, they aren’t. However, the way some young people are using these platforms appears to be evolving. The public facing platform may still be where they discover content, follow trends, watch videos, or keep up with popular culture, while their more meaningful conversations and relationships are increasingly taking place somewhere else. Why? We believe there are several reasons, but two are becoming particularly important, privacy and authenticity.
Today’s youth and teens are growing up in an online environment where they increasingly understand that what they post can be copied, screenshotted, searched, scraped, analyzed, monetized, redistributed, or potentially used to help train or shape artificial intelligence systems, both education and experience have played an important role in this awakening. At the same time, their feeds are becoming increasingly populated by recommended content, advertising, influencers, sponsored posts, AI-generated images and videos, automated accounts, and what has popularly become known as “AI slop,” the mass production of low value synthetic content designed primarily to capture attention, generate clicks, or satisfy an algorithm.
When the public internet begins to feel increasingly artificial, noisy, commercialized, and algorithmically manipulated, something very human can happen, authenticity and trusted relationships become more valuable. This is why we believe we may be witnessing several interconnected migrations in youth digital culture, something we believe is important for parents, caregivers, and educators to be aware of as we move into the new school year, and something that we have written about in the past (1)(2).
From Broadcast Platforms to Trusted Online Communities
Traditional social media was largely built around broadcasting. Post the picture, upload the video, share the opinion, collect the likes, increase the follower count, and hopefully reach a larger audience. However, some youth appear increasingly comfortable maintaining a public social media presence while reserving their meaningful interactions for much smaller groups of people they identify as friends.
A teenager might have hundreds or thousands of followers on a public or semi-public account, yet the people they genuinely communicate with may consist of a handful of friends inside a group chat, private story, Close Friends list, Discord server, gaming community, or direct message thread. The public profile may still exist, but it no longer necessarily tells us where that young person’s meaningful digital social life is taking place. In many ways, this represents a movement from broadcasting to belonging.
From Attention Networks to Relationship Networks
Many of today’s largest platforms operate within what is commonly called the attention economy. The longer we stay on a platform, the more content we consume, the more advertisements we can be shown, and the more information the platform can potentially learn about what captures and holds our attention. As a result, many platforms have historically measured success through engagement metrics such as views, likes, comments, shares, followers, watch time, streaks, and impressions. However, there is an important difference between an attention network and a relationship network. An attention network asks, “How many people saw me?” A relationship network asks, “Who actually knows me?”
We believe this distinction is particularly important for parents, caregivers, and educators. A teenager with thousands of followers may receive enormous amounts of attention while still feeling socially disconnected. Another teenager may interact online with only six or eight trusted friends and feel deeply connected to all of them. Both young people are technically “using social media,” but their experiences can be fundamentally different.
This is also why screen time alone often tells us very little about the quality of a young person’s online experience. Thirty minutes privately talking with a close friend is very different from thirty minutes endlessly scrolling through algorithmically recommended videos from strangers on TikTok. Both involve a screen, but socially, emotionally, and developmentally they are not necessarily the same experience.
From Algorithmic Platforms to Human Networks
Algorithms increasingly decide what appears in front of us online. Open many popular social media platforms today and the content you see is no longer limited to people you deliberately chose to follow. Recommendation systems predict what might keep you watching, clicking, sharing, commenting, purchasing, or returning, and artificial intelligence is now accelerating this change. AI makes it possible to produce enormous amounts of images, videos, articles, advertisements, music, comments, profiles, influencers, and other forms of synthetic media quickly and cheaply. Increasingly, users may not even know whether the person, picture, voice, review, comment, or video appearing in front of them is authentic. What is important to understand is that youth and teens are noticing this as well. We would actually argue that youth and teens are much more alive to this issue than adults
As the online environment becomes increasingly populated with synthetic content, trusted human networks can become more valuable precisely because young people have a greater sense of who is actually on the other side of the conversation. There is an interesting irony here that we believe parents, caregivers, and educators should recognize, the more artificial the internet becomes, the more valuable authentic human connection may become.
From Public Feeds to Private Communications
Another important migration involves the movement away from public posting and toward private or semi-private communication. Again, this does not necessarily mean youth are leaving public platforms. Instead, the public feed and the private communication layer are beginning to serve different purposes, like a Swiss Army knife. The public feed might be where a teenager watches content, discovers music, follows creators, keeps up with trends, or occasionally posts something themselves. The private layer is where friendship interaction actually happen.
Direct messages, group chats, private stories, gaming chats, invite only communities, smaller Discord servers, and other closed spaces can increasingly become the places where young people talk, joke, share experiences, ask questions, and maintain relationships. This is why simply asking, “What apps are kids using?” is becoming a less useful digital literacy question. A better question is, “How are youth using the technology they have?”
The same platform can simultaneously function as an entertainment platform, public broadcasting tool, messaging service, friendship network, news source, shopping environment, gaming community, and private communication system. Understanding behaviour and context is therefore becoming more important than simply identifying the name of the app.
From Creator Platforms to Community Platforms
Another change worth watching is the relationship youth have with creator culture. Young people have grown up watching influencers, streamers, YouTubers, TikTok creators, and other personalities turn everyday experiences into content. There have been many positive outcomes from this shift, including new opportunities for creativity, entrepreneurship, education, entertainment, advocacy, and self-expression.
However, creator culture can also encourage a form of constant digital performance where almost anything can become content. The meal becomes content, the vacation becomes content, the friendship becomes content, the embarrassing moment becomes content, and sometimes even deeply personal experiences become content. When everyday life is constantly viewed through the lens of what might be posted, shared, or watched, the boundary between experiencing life and performing life can become increasingly blurred. This too is changing with AI generated influencer starting to penetrate this space (3)(4).
Smaller communities can operate differently. Rather than asking, “What can I create that other people will watch?” the interaction becomes, “What can we share with one another?” That is a subtle but important movement from audience to community. It does not mean creator culture is disappearing, it isn’t. However, we believe some young people may increasingly value digital spaces where they don’t feel they need to perform for an invisible audience or satisfy an algorithm or train an AI large language model in order to participate.
From Engagement Platforms to Trusted Platforms
For technology companies, engagement has historically been an extremely valuable metric. For families, however, engagement should never automatically be considered the goal, instead, trust should matter more.
Youth and teens are increasingly aware that public posting carries consequences. Something intended for one audience can be screenshotted and shared with another. A private joke can become public, an old photograph can resurface years later, or a video can be copied, manipulated, or turned into a deepfake. Personal content can potentially become data used by companies or artificial intelligence systems in ways the original creator never contemplated.
This doesn’t mean youth suddenly possess perfect privacy literacy, they don’t, and neither do most adults. Young people can still overshare, misunderstand privacy settings, underestimate risk, or place trust in someone who hasn’t earned it. However, greater awareness of these realities may help explain why smaller and more controlled digital environments can feel increasingly attractive. For some young people, the question is no longer simply, “How many people can I reach?” It may increasingly be, “Who do I actually want to let in?” There is, however, an important caveat that parents, caregivers, and educators need to understand. Private does not automatically mean safe, and a trusted community is only as trustworthy as the people inside it.
The very features that make smaller digital spaces attractive can also create challenges. Bullying can migrate from public comments into private group chats, grooming can move into direct messages, and sextortion can begin inside what feels like a private conversation. Hate, extremism, misinformation, and harmful communities can operate behind invitations and closed groups where their activities are less visible to outsiders. This creates an important paradox. Privacy can protect young people from unwanted public attention while simultaneously making harmful behaviour more difficult for parents, schools, platforms, and sometimes law enforcement to see.
Our response should not be to teach young people that private communication is dangerous. Instead, we should be teaching them something far more useful, that being privacy and trust are not the same thing. A privacy setting can control who is allowed into a digital space, however, it cannot determine whether the people inside that space deserve to be trusted.
This is where we believe digital literacy education also needs to evolve. For years, much of internet safety education has focused heavily on platforms and features. Don’t use this app, turn off this setting, watch out for this trend, block this feature. Although some of this advice can be useful, it has a very short shelf life because technology changes too quickly. Instead, we need to give youth transferable skills that work regardless of what platform, technology, AI tool, gaming environment, or communication service becomes popular next.
Who created this community? Why does it exist? Who benefits from my participation? What information am I sharing? Who can see it? Could supposedly private content still be copied or shared? Do I actually know the people I am communicating with? Why do I trust them? Is someone trying to move me from a public conversation into a private one? Is someone encouraging me to keep conversations secret from the people in my life who care about me?
Those questions remain relevant whether a young person is communicating through Instagram, Snapchat, Discord, a gaming platform, an AI companion, a private messaging service, or a technology that hasn’t even been invented yet.
We believe there may also be something bigger taking place that deserves our attention. For much of the past two decades, technology companies have worked to make our online worlds bigger. More followers, more reach, more content, more creators, more recommendations, more engagement, more advertising, and ultimately more time spent inside their platforms.
Artificial intelligence now makes it possible to produce a nearly unlimited supply of content. However, when content becomes almost infinite, our attention becomes scarcer and our trust becomes more valuable. Perhaps this is one reason some youth and teens are beginning to seek smaller, more intentional spaces online. We believe we are witnessing a gradual movement:
From broadcast platforms to trusted online communities.
From attention networks to relationship networks.
From algorithmic platforms to human networks.
From public feeds to private communications.
From creator platforms to community engaged platforms.
From engagement platforms to trusted platforms.
What we find particularly interesting about this migration is that after years of technology encouraging young people to connect with everyone, some may be rediscovering the value of meaningfully connecting with someone.
For parents, caregivers, and educators, this shouldn’t automatically be viewed as another technology trend that needs to be feared or controlled. It is something we need to understand, discuss, and help young people navigate safely and intentionally.
Perhaps one of the great ironies of the age of artificial intelligence will be that as our online world becomes increasingly populated by algorithms, synthetic media, AI-generated content, automated accounts, and endless attempts to capture our attention, authentic and trusted human connection may become one of the most valuable commodities in the onlife world. This is why our approach to digital literacy needs to move beyond simply teaching youth how to use technology safely. We also need to teach them how to recognize and build healthy human relationships through technology.
Technology will continue to change, platforms will come and go, algorithms will evolve, and artificial intelligence will become increasingly embedded into the online environments where youth spend their time. The human element, however, will continue to matter!
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The White Hatter
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2/ https://www.thewhitehatter.ca/post/youth-and-teens-are-migrating-in-greater-numbers-to-com-groups
