Why Messaging About Youth, Teens, and the The Return To The “REAL WORD” is Tone Deaf
- The White Hatter
- 4 hours ago
- 3 min read
There is a new national campaign being developed and promoted online across Canada by a group advocating for age based restrictions on social media. At its core, the campaign focuses on highlighting what is possible when young people step away from screens, with messaging that celebrates youth thriving in what is often described as the “real world” without technology. Phrases like “inspiring moments that happen away from digital distractions”, "when kids unplug they flourish", and “when kids flourish in the real world, we all benefit” are central to that narrative.
On the surface, this message can feel positive and well intentioned. Encouraging young people to engage in offline activities, build relationships, and explore their interests beyond a device is something most parents and caregivers would agree has value. The concern is not with the intent of the message, but with how it is being framed. It relies on a distinction between online and offline life that no longer reflects how youth and teens actually live, connect, and experience the world today. In doing so, it leans heavily on a version of adolescence shaped by adult memory, rather than the current realities youth are navigating. That matters, because when we base messaging on nostalgia instead of present day context, we risk missing what youth and teens truly need to succeed in the world they are growing up in. (1).
The idea that there is a clear divide between the “real world” and the “online world” is increasingly outdated. As philosopher Luciano Floridi has argued, we are now living in what he describes as the “onlife” world, a space where digital and physical experiences are fully integrated. For today’s youth and teen, friendships are formed both at school and through group chats. Creativity happens both on a basketball court and on a video editing app. Support, identity exploration, learning, and even advocacy often move fluidly between offline and online spaces. It is not two separate worlds, it’s one connected environment.
When campaigns suggest that “meaningful” or “inspiring” moments only happen away from screens, they risk unintentionally dismissing a significant part of young people’s lived experience. A youth or teen who finds a supportive community online, learns a new skill through digital content, or expresses themselves creatively through technology is not experiencing something less real. They are engaging with the same world, just through a different medium.
This kind of framing can also create an unnecessary tension for parents and caregivers. It can lead to the belief that time spent online is inherently less valuable, rather than encouraging a more productive question like, “what is a young person doing with that time, and how is it impacting their overall well-being?” That shift in perspective matters. It moves the conversation away from simple “screen vs no screen” thinking and toward a more meaningful focus on quality, context, and balance. As an example, we have now interview six Canadian teen over the past few months who have flourish online and offline (2)(3)(4)(5)(6). We are also planning of interviewing many more to help bring a more balanced discussion surrounding this topic.
None of this is to suggest that there are no risks in digital spaces, or that boundaries are not important. There are real concerns that deserve attention, including design features that encourage excessive use, exposure to harmful content, and privacy risks, something that we speak to in all our presentations and many of our articles. However, addressing those concerns requires a more nuanced and balanced approach than simply promoting disconnection as the solution.
A more effective path forward is to recognize that youth and teens flourish not by being removed from the onlife world, but by being prepared to navigate it in balanced and informed way. That includes helping them build digital literacy, critical thinking skills, emotional awareness, and healthy habits around technology use. It also includes creating space for both offline and online experiences to coexist in a way that supports their development.
The goal should not be to position one world as more “real” than the other. The goal should be to help youth and teens thrive in a balanced way across the full spectrum of their lived experience. When we acknowledge that reality, we are in a much stronger position to support them in a way that is both grounded and effective.
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